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What is Grindr?

What is Grindr?


While the Dating Gurus don't make a practice of reviewing hook-up sites, we've had some requests from readers asking about well-known Grindr and its straight sibling, Blendr.

Although Grindr's CEO  and founder Joel Simkai is reluctant for Grindr to be known as a gay play partner site, the roughly 6 million users in 192 countries who are actively using Grindr in just this way might beg to differ. Instead, Simkai, suggests that Grindr and Blendr's true identity for to assist in "meet-ups".  You'll excuse us if we snicker into our shoulders.

Here's how Grindr works:

Imagine, if you will, an app that is accessed on your cell phone which instantly identifies the location  of potentially hundreds of gay men, all with a short profile, and most with a few pics,within any search parameter you set. You can literally see who is online, and how many feet away they are from you. Yes, feet.

Why would you use Grindr?

As a gay man, perhaps you'd appreciate a quick and easy way to identify other fellas in your hood for whatever. Maybe you don't drink or like hanging out in bars.  Maybe you're in a small town, or stationed at Joint Base Lewis-McChord and you're wondering how the hell you're going to find other guys. Or maybe you're on vacation in London or Greece and are looking for an adventure. And then again, maybe you are looking for a quickie.

Downloading the free Grindr app to your iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, Android or BlackBerry allows you to quickly locate other gay men within a close proximity who are available to meet immediately. Each user taps a box that attests that they are over 17 years old, downloads several pictures and a profile blurb. Members can then send text messages to each other, and meet up, if both are agreeable.

Our Grindr experience

We downloaded the free Grindr app with ease, through the iTunes app store, and were immediately confronted with a series of pop-ups on our screen telling us to "Get More with Xtra: Grindr on Steroids", which shows you 'up to 300 guys' (which is  200 more than you are able to see with the basic app), and with the option of seeing only those members who are currently online (green dot guys).  Staying with the basic free app, we were able to see lots of profiles that were currently online and in our vicinity, one being a mere 1530 feet away.

Without using a photo, we texted, "Good evening", and shockingly (not) received his response almost instantly, "Hey. Horny here".

Then, a handsome young guy, CJ, purportedly 22, 4, away, 702 feet away texted  us, and after chatting for a few minutes, responded to our question about what he thought of Grindr. CJ told us that "the site was full of flaky people that perpetuated the stereotype of gay men", and then proceeded to ask us to send him some pics. When we didn't, he did. You can imagine. Then another guy texted and without any response, sent 3 pics of himself, one completely unclothed, fondling his unit, full face included. And another proposition, and another.

This was followed by a 24 y.o. dude nearby who asked a few questions, and then asked if we wanted to meet tonight. Stalling, we hesitated, curious if it was going to be a proposition or a request for a date, and much to our surprise he did ask if we wanted to do dinner tomorrow. He sent his digits and his first name.

So, enough was enough. We told him we had cold feet, so not to be completely ratty, and logged off.

Pros: Hookup site with minimal effort..right in your 'hood. Easy navigation. Free-Cheap. Cons: This is not your mother's first choice for you to meet men. Despite the ease of use, your spidey safety sense MUST be engaged.

Check out our review of Grindr's site for straight meet-ups, Blendr.


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