What could be more alluring than a seemingly endless smorgasbord of men and women to peruse, analyze, and drool over?
In the beginning, nothing could be more exciting than to consider all the options out there. We've been there.. done that.
Sometimes, faced with all these possibilities, it gets so overwhelming that you choose no one, waiting for a lightning bolt of inspiration to strike with the next click of the mouse.
And so you keep clicking, waiting to discover the perfect person for you.
Even experienced online daters fall prey to to the "Trading Up" syndrome. With so many "potentials" out there in dating-land, it's easy to want to trade in the Honda Accord for the chance to lease an Audi. And then, a BMW and a Mercedes and a... you get the idea.
Even if you've had several perfectly fantastic dates with someone you've met online, all it can take is a message in your dating service inbox to pique your interest in a tempting new possibility. Nothing wrong with playing the field, but when the field is limited only by your search parameters, it can get pretty tempting to fall into the pattern of date-->search-->date.
Don't Become a Professional Online Dater
If you find yourself spending lots of time and energy seeking dates online but can't seem to get past the initial couple of dates without feeling like the grass might be greener "out there" you may have unwittingly fallen into a pattern of professional online dating.
Bouncing from person to person, without the real opportunity to get to know someone on more than a superficial level might seem tempting if all you're looking for is an ego boost, or to practice your "game", but eventually, even the biggest players have told us that they realized too late that they had breezed past really great girls and guys while holding out for something "even better". So be cautious that you don't fall into this syndrome, and remember that perfection does not exist when it comes to dating or relationships.