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Dating Profile With Too Many Demands

There exists a certain type of dating profile that we like to call the Laundry List Profile. The writer, probably at a loss for words, issues lists of...stuff.  Whatever-kinda-stuff.  Movies.  Music.  It's not totally the fault of the writers, though.  Many online dating services encourage the writers to write long lists, with prompts such as "List All Your Favorite Books."

This writer, a 49 year-old woman, has created an example of something else:  a hybrid dating profile.  She has mixed the Laundry List with the Demands Made of the Other Person profile.  True, earlier in the profile (not shown here), she did spend a fair amount of time describing herself.  But then she falls into this trap:

Now we have 14 bullet points, describing exactly the type of man she is looking for.  Ouch!

Who can fulfill every single one of these demands?  Should we check off every one with a pen?  It really feels that way.

However, she does get a higher grade because most of these "demands" are quite sweet.  Who can argue with "compassionate," "values family and friends," and "has a positive attitude."

Many dating profiles that list demands list icky, creepy demands that make the woman sound like a bitch-waiting-to-be-unleashed.  These are not at all in that category.

The Dating Gurus Recommend:

This one is easy.  Cut the list down to four or five, choosing the most important ones.  Then break the list apart, mixing them into the earlier section (where she describes herself).

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